How to Stay Connected...Even When Planning a Wedding

Updated: Nov 13

#Weddingplanning can be stressful, expensive, divisive and overwhelming. In some cases, it can bring of feelings of resentment if one partner feels they are doing the majority of the planning or funding. Planning can sometimes provoke family dramas or spark uncomfortable discussions. It is imperative to find ways to step away from planning to nourish your #relationship. Take time to remember how you felt about each other before this added chaos and decision making presented itself into your daily lives.

Don’t get me wrong, wedding planning can be so much fun!! Especially when you make time for your partner, and you make a #commitment not to become too overwhelmed or consumed in the process. When done with care, planning the biggest party of your lives with your love is an experience you will cherish and remember fondly forever.

Since my partner and I work together, we have to find a way to separate wedding planning as well as discussions about of our company…for the sake of our #sanity. For just a few hours a night, we #unplug and ask each other questions that we don’t yet have the answers to for fun.

It’s been an amazing way to get to know each other better and better. The questions spark amazing, hilarious or passionate discussions and grow our bond through great conversation.

I have included a few of my favorite #relationshipquestions below.

I hope you’ll take some time for your relationship today.

1) What did you want to be when you grew up?

2) How many crackers can you eat at once?

3) Who is your #celebritycrush?

4) What was the first performance you ever saw live?

5) What purchase do you most regret?

6) What do you see yourself doing during retirement?

7) What qualities do you most admire about me?

8) What is your favorite candy?

9) What are you most proud of?

10) What do you wish we did more of?

11) Where do you think we’ll be this time next year?

12) Would you live in a tiny house?

13) What songs should our #DJ play at our #wedding?

14) What’s your sign? Read your #horoscope.

15) What are five ways to make your day?

16) What are your top five pet peeves?

17) What was your first job?

18) What do you want to be remembered for?

19) What is your favorite #familytradition?

20) Describe me in five words.

21) Do you consider yourself an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist?

22) How should we spend our tenth anniversary?

23) If you could travel back in time, when would you go?

24) If you found a wallet with $1,000 in it, what would you do?

25) What instrument do you wish you played?

26) What is your dream car?

27) What are three things you’d say you are passionate about?

28) What kind of dog do you think I’d be? Why? (Be nice!)

29) If you could have dinner anywhere, where would that be?

30) What do you think people misunderstand about you?

What did you think? Did you learn something about each other? If you liked this #exercise, you’ll be pleased to know that my partner and I are working on a couple’s journal that we hope to have on the market within the year. Make sure to follow @FrenchEventsRents on social media for updates. Our new book is sure to make an amazing #engagement, shower, or #weddinggift!

So, what are some other ways not to get overwhelmed by the process? Ask for help. Reach out to friends and even vendors for advice. Find people who have experience planning a wedding and when possible, hire the appropriate help. #WeddingPlanners seamlessly walk you through the process. #DayofCoordinators are a more budget friendly option that can help you enjoy your big day without the stress. Most importantly, remember why you are doing this. This is your partner’s wedding just as much as it is yours; so include them, empathize with them, consult with them, and make this day uniquely about the two of you.

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